The Genuine Art Tickle
Learning to ask for help by Bryan Duncan
Of all the things I’ve hated in life, being needy is at the top of my list. I’m discovering that asking for help is a necessity. No one in life is successful all by themselves. But the art of asking for help is rarely worked on at the level of all things career driven. Like music, it takes more than one “Rehearsal”.
I even have to ask people to help me ask people for help. Yes, it’s called promotion and marketing in some circles. Those are really glorified labels for a sometimes humbling position of facing true neediness. Granted, Rock Stars in the past seemed incredibly oblivious to the facts of what other people were doing to help them.
In our case however, Thank God for Christ! He has no problem speaking to us about our problem. But neediness is not weakness! In fact, that subtlety in our mis-definition can corrupt all of our best intentions. We all know that an image of success actually perpetuates it. Nobody wants to be a part of a giant failure. Here again, you might have “Image of success” poorly defined as pretentious. For our sakes let’s call it “projecting our faith”.
Faith is acting on things unseen as of yet, is it not? But it doesn’t negate the one true place we must all acknowledge first. We won’t make it without a lot of help. In order for that to happen, you must prove yourself to be reliable and downright determined to follow through on your plans, even if no one were to join you except God almighty. Showing up on time is a simple start; by the way, of proving you are committed to your passion. Honoring your word is also preparation for asking others to trust you and your work.
Don’t kid yourself into believing that what you do every day isn’t being noticed by the very people who will be first to contribute to your efforts. The one thing that got my first recording contract with a major record label was simply the number of concerts I was already doing. You have to show reasonable potential for benefit. “Win/Win” is the moniker tagged to this concept these days. It was always presented to others for me in my early career.
In this new world, I’ve had to learn the art of explanation of the “Art Form” in order to perform at all. The first time I ever said “I need your money to help me” was on camera and I nearly choked on it. I had visions of devious T.V. preachers in my head. Now I’m learning to know who you are, what you believe, and why you think you are worth the “investment”. And be aware of what others are working at accomplishing. Know how they might benefit from your assistance in a similar direction. It’s called synergy!
By this writing I will have finished a month long campaign to raise an album budget on www.kickstarter.com it’s one of several facilitators of the Arts and Ideas funding now in place that you should look into. I’m learning to set deadlines. My campaign will be successful, even if the money goal were not to be reached, because it comes with a deadline to work towards. It lights a fire in me to do work in the same direction every day. I’m seeing that because I am already moving, there is a willingness in others to engage in the same vision.
I’m learning to understand that “downtime” is really time for preparation. Before my campaign started over a month ago, came an everyday commitment I made to create dialog in social media, making contacts with people who resonated with my music and convictions. The last four years have been the development of communicating my desires, helping me learn to speak of my convictions in ways others understand.
Looking back, I can see where I would take off on a dream to the exclusion of everyone. I hadn’t communicated about the reason I was writing this particular music and these particular lyrics. It was irritating to this impatient soul to take the time to give reasons for my pursuits. I had that “you should know already” and “if I have to explain it, you wouldn’t get it anyway” kind of mentality. Bottom line: that attitude can be filed under “Self Involved”.
After many bewildering endings to my pursuits, I’m learning to see people above an objective. I see my efforts in ministry now as a way of engaging life generally with many of my friends. The relationships we’ve built together are richer than any single goal we’ve ever attempted. Seeing real people is a key to asking for real help. And having a genuine desire to help others will go a long way in understanding why any of us would be willing to give.



